One of our favorite BTL teachings to individuals, teams, and leaders is around the notion that the elite are hard on self without getting down on self. This is true. Recently this truth has taken a turn toward a more complete one. You see, the truth will set you free but usually only after it makes you miserable for awhile (Thank you, Richard Rohr). The elite are not simply hard on self and not down on self – of course there is always another “and.”
The elite are hard on self, not down on self when the outcomes are not what they wanted. In other words, the elite are hard on self when they lose a game, match, sale, or some teammate/client tells them to get lost. The elite see losing as learning. This mindset is difficult and requires deliberate practice and large doses of courage to maintain. Hard on self, not down on self. Keep working. Good.
And, surprisingly, the elite are hard on self, not high on self when the outcomes are freakin’ magic. In other words, the elite are hard on self when they win big, get promoted, make the big sale, or find that perfect teammate/client that makes their day. The elite see winning as learning. This mindset is difficult and requires deliberate practice and large doses of humility to maintain. Hard on self, not high on self. My struggle is here. I don’t tend to get down, but my oh my can I get high. My reminder, you most likely have figured out – keep working. “Keep working, Chet, keep working,” plays as if it were hard wired in my head, ‘cause it is. Good.
Hard on self, not down on self or high on self. Fact.
Hard on self and filled with hope. Someday, we will know the truth and the truth will set us free, friend. I’m satisfied knowing that, today, my aim is simply to keep loving, keep working, and keep helping a few along their way. Today, through my choices, I’m gonna do more than I think. With the help of a few, I’m transforming from a lone toward all one.
Together we transform. Always together. God, help us all…