Remember, your brain can effectively hold one mess at a time. And, as C.S. Lewis said, “Putting first things first, doesn’t make second things less…”
Well meaning teammates and leaders will oftentimes offer strong teammates twelve things to work on and they’ll all be fairly good things. Sadly, this kinda feedback will overwhelm even the best of us. So, leader, think more critically when coaching up your team. Offer one thing. STOP. Ask the receiver what they heard. Rinse and repeat until it’s squeaky clean. Guidance isn’t very helpful if, upon arrival at said corner, it tells you the next twelve turns to make.
Turn right here, I can handle.
Even when given the green light, send less. Even when you are facing a horder of bad habits, send less correction. Even when you’re invited in after all these years, send less. Send less, my well intentioned friend. Even when you’ve mastered telling teammates what to do, send less. Instead, master the art of the question. Master getting your teammate to think more critically and owning their way forward. Make them tell you more. Send less. The BTL leader is the master of pushing the tension to it’s rightful owner. The first step in pushing tension to your teammates is asking great, thought provoking questions instead of playing the heavy and laying ‘em out with your answer. First things first, my friend. Master putting first things first. Send less.
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