Last night a whole bunch of OSU athletes gathered in the Shoe. Why? Simple really. Cbear has a big dream for impacting all OSU athletes. So, she and her ever expanding team, are putting out leadership programming faster than you can say Eugene D. Smith Leadership Institute. So, last night, athletes from Soccer, Softball, Lacrosse, Field Hockey, Golf, Track, Cross country, Cheer, and certainly other sports I didn’t hear from, congregated in the Southeast corner of the Shoe on a snowy, cold, March night to learn from each other. Here’s a taste of what they heard from me.
Lets go way back to when you and I were first born. We all come into the world the same way – self centered and other controlling. Think about this. As babies we are born 100% dependent on our leaders – our parents. Fact. So, what do we do? We cry. We control. We think the world revolves around us. Good parents further reinforce our belief. As we mature, we begin to realize it’s not all about me – the world doesn’t revolve around me, dang it. So, what do most of us do? We remain in our natural state – self centered and other controlling. We decide to double down our effort in controlling our sphere of influence. We seek position, power, and prominence, all with the hope that influence will increase, especially our influence over people like you.
The effort to control others is met with much resistance. Most of us slowly go nuts. I mean come on man, focusing on what you cannot control is the recipe for mental illness. You cannot control your coach, teammate, partner, or roommate. Today, we’ve gone a step further toward becoming a nut, not a Buckeye, mind you. Nope, a nutcase. Today, we’re focused on many outside our real sphere of influence. Yes, we’re focused on our “followers,” whatever that’s come to mean. This spirals our mind further out of control.
Flip the script. Excellence, we believe, is a result of someone building a second nature, a more virtuous nature if you will. Excellence is about becoming BTL core centered and self controlling. So what does it mean to become BTL core centered and self controlling? It means figuring out who you are, what you stand for, aligning your deepest held beliefs with your everyday behaviors, gaining clarity of why you’re here, dreaming big with where you’re going, and then being disciplined like Cbear about productively acting it into existence. It means becoming a master of your MOT (Moments of Truth) and calmly, consistently, and competently, mastering your work/life. Building a second nature is the one you want, friends.
Last night a whole bunch of athletes were given the opportunity to increase their influence. It’s up to them to take responsibility and make the most of it. Like most every game in work/life, you and I don’t rise to the occasion, we fall back to the level of our training. Want more influence on others? Stop trying. Focus on increasing your influence within you. Become more core centered and self controlling. Good.
Live hard. Love harder (Thanks, Teeks)…