…are two opposite mindsets.
Do you listen to your little voice when things aren’t going your way — or, do you talk back to yourself with the voice of a strong core?
Most humans listen to their little voice. This leads to going mental, which sabotages life, hopes, dreams and teams.
Here’s how “mental” sounds:
“Yes I know I should persevere, BUT nothing is going my way today.”
“Yes, I know God says the suffering my kids are going through does not define them and soon he will have his way, BUT I can’t bear it anymore.”
“Yes, I know conflict is a difficult conversation to be had not avoid, BUT I’m just not going to deal with it today.”
“Yes, this is the moment I’ve dreamed for and it’s exactly what we have trained for, BUT the pressure of this match is just too overwhelming.”
Lament is the one you want to keep from going mental when adversity strikes. Lamenting is not denial. Lamenting acknowledges adversity, fear and even the pain – but, lamenting is far more than whining. Lamenting flips the script.
Here’s how a “lament” sounds:
“Yes it seems nothing is going my way today, BUT I choose to persevere.”
“Yes, I can hardly bear the suffering my kids are going through right now, BUT God says it doesn’t define them and soon he will have his way.”
“Yes, I don’t feel like dealing with this conflict today, BUT conflict is a difficult conversation to be had, not avoid.”
“Yes the pressure of this match seems overwhelming, BUT this is the moment we’ve dreamed of and it’s exactly what we’ve trained for — together, we can DO this.”
Do not delay building a strong core. Do not wait – initiate. A strong core rooted in deeply-held beliefs will give you conviction when you need it most. This is what Chet calls building your second nature to overcome your human nature.
Flip the script. Practice building the power of the lament to overcome going mental.
Together we transform. Always two-gether.