We humans are prone to what modern science describes as falling prey to the focusing illusion which Daniel Kahneman describes neatly in a single sentence – “Nothing in life is as important as you think it is when you are thinking about it.”
Slow down and reflect. Are you focusing your attention on some small aspect of your life? And, if you are, are you aware how this is occupying your mind and your attitude? Is your leaders lack of confirmation of your job really as damning as you’re making it in your mind? Is your new contract gonna make you happy and set for the rest of your life? Is your struggle at home as catastrophic as you think?
Nope, they’re not.
You see, you and I are prone to lots of errors when it comes to the accuracy of our thinking and our ability to then project our future feelings. You are much more than whatever’s occupying your attention at this moment. So, if you want to be different try this as a productive action. At the end of each day, put pen to paper. Write out your gratitude list. Focus some amount of your attention at the end of a normal up and down day by reflecting on somethings, some people, some places, and some times you’ve felt grateful. Focus on the good.
Live hard. Love harder…
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I love your book and everything you’re doing to build champions in life. I am a character coach with FCA Wrestling. Helping coaches and wrestlers to transfer the character skills needed to be a champion wrestler to becoming a champion in life and hopefully also helping them grow in their faith in God. I was meeting with Peter K a while back each week and sharing ideas with one another. I’d love to connect with you sometime.