Author: John Rue

...because words matter. "I told her she needs to...." "You should just...." "They have to..." "Dumbass..." Your language reflects the culture you are building, and every leader has exactly the culture he or she deserves. To change your culture, start with changing your language, including the language you use to talk to yourself...sooner or later, … Continue reading Watch your language…

...through their emotions. Not your emotions — theirs. Average teams have wrong emotions about wrong stuff. Elite teams have right emotions about right stuff. Leaders who are soft on their teams enable wrong emotions.   So do leaders who are hard on their teams while soft on themselves. For better or for worse, a culture … Continue reading Your team’s culture is revealed…

…are two opposite mindsets. Do you listen to your little voice when things aren't going your way -- or, do you talk back to yourself with the voice of a strong core? Most humans listen to their little voice.  This leads to going mental, which sabotages life, hopes, dreams and teams. Here's how "mental" sounds: … Continue reading Ment-al vs. La-ment…

...is do for you what only you can do for yourself. Most of the time here you read about clients who are becoming elite.   You read about them challenging themselves and gaining clarity through their writing.   You read about their breakthroughs.   You read about them choosing acute pain.   You read about … Continue reading One thing we can’t do…

…of which much has been written regarding business to business, yet for the most important B2B, not so much.   Years ago Gallup was commissioned to research and identify the root metric driving KPIs and outcomes.   What Gallup discovered is at the core it's all about the level of engagement, whether it's a workplace … Continue reading To B2B or not B2B, that is the question…

…down-on-self, or high-on-self, or SOFT-on-self. In practice #114 with a group of real estate appraisers, we studied the worldview of the greatest individuals, teams and leaders -- which is hard-on-self AND hard-on-others. When Toto and I talked a couple days about this as it pertains to Collaborative Effort, we were reminded again why BTL team … Continue reading Hard-on-self, not…

...are mostly what hold you back from experiencing joy, impact and significance in work and life. Today started at 640am sitting on the steps prior to our Core Community WedAM bible study with a client who has the right kind of pains - growing pains.   His business has rebounded from an off-year to being … Continue reading Self-limiting beliefs…

...is one of the most crucial factors influencing how much fulfillment & impact you will have in either limiting or realizing your God-given potential. Most humans define failure in terms of the wrong outcomes, and define themselves as a success or a failure accordingly.    Therefore most humans play small, and live life way below … Continue reading How you define FAILURE…