The best leaders are consistent—cool and calm under pressure without cracking or overreacting. They're intentional about building, first their core and then on the thousands of nuances that make them distinct. Recently, I practiced with a team asked to define the difference between 'react' and 'respond'. The difference is not just a nuance- it's a … Continue reading Emotional intelligence at it’s highest and finest…
Category: Emotional Intelligence
Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 4 of 4
This final trap may be the most widespread, and the saddest. And none are immune. Thursday I facilitated practice #2 with a non-profit team of heroes who serve neglected youth & single moms in one of our city's most troubled neighborhoods. Since some weren't at practice #1, we wrote again on "why are you here?" A quiet one shared she'd had a breakthrough at our first … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 4 of 4
Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 2 of 4
A second trap on the Builder's Journey is what Robert McGee calls 'APPROVAL ADDICTION.' It often 'lies' underneath the Performance Trap (Dream & Do Traps: Part 1 of 4). The false belief is that you aren’t significant unless & until you have earned ___________’s approval (e.g. of your boss, mentor, mom, dad, granddad, spouse. . .it may not even … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 2 of 4
Joye at Work
After our friend and partner, Larry Allen, passed away last May, I was called to care for his clients in Houston, Texas. I went down there to visit them in June to find out what they wanted to do. I had absolutely no expectation that any would want to continue with BUILT TO LEAD. As … Continue reading Joye at Work
“Double Listening”
I was talking with Toto (aka Chet) Friday and we were reflecting on a paradox we feel all the time. If, as Jim Sullivan aptly puts it -- "the heart of performance is building TRUST, and the heart of building trust is just LISTENING" -- well, shouldn’t this be EASY? Most of us have had … Continue reading “Double Listening”
The difference between A-Lone and ALL-one: PART 2
What's the difference between a leader and a team that feels "A-Lone" versus "ALL-one" in work and life? Check out Part 1 -- it's one "L" of a difference, and the first difference is LOVE. In Part 2, let's explore a second difference, which is the LANGUAGE of "A-Lone" versus "ALL-one" in work and life --think … Continue reading The difference between A-Lone and ALL-one: PART 2
Control issues…
Building on Jim's awesome thoughts about the CEO's five keys let me, if you will, "and one." CEO's and every other leader for that matter, in the end, are only as good as their team. Remember, every leader gets exactly the team he or she deserves. Most leaders are represented by a team that, according … Continue reading Control issues…
Questions
Did you know that at BUILT TO LEAD, we're big fans of questions? Why? Could it be that questions are the currency of curiosity? Isn't curiosity good; filled with possibility, and discovery, and maybe learning something you didn't already know? Further, might it be that questions are the foundation of great listening skills? Do you … Continue reading Questions
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