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Fear and hurt are the primordial emotions that most dysfunction builds off of. Anger is a way to cover for and avoid fear and hurt, as is numbing. Over-achieving can be another unhealthy way of avoiding the hardest things. Dis-ease is a precursor for disease. The dis-ease you feel at those primordial emotions, and the … Continue reading Re-solve to resolve

As I read the history of the Ryder cup back in 2016 when Doug, Tay, and I teed it up in Scotland at the Old Course and then the Kings course at Gleneagles, it reminded me how many traditions get jump started by accident. Back in 1921 a group of Americans & Brits gathered at … Continue reading Ryder cup pressure…

We’re omnivores. Our bodies are designed to run on a variety of foods. So why do our Supermarkets mostly serve us corn? Simple. Because corn (and soy) are cheap cals, and back in the 1970’s our government decided to give us what we wanted - cheaper cals. So, if you shop anything but the outer … Continue reading Eat food…

So what, next pitch. That was the mantra adopted by many of the college players I coached. The point of it was to be present. You just gave up a home run? So what, next pitch. You just booted a ball at shortstop? So what, next pitch. Stay focused on what's happening right now, rather … Continue reading Next pitch

You and I are a lot like a hot air balloon. We don’t rise unless we’re filled with heat. Your “love to’s” are your hot air. Your OPUS (labor of love) will keep you soaring when fueled by love. Whenever you notice yourself free falling and unable to muster the goods, slow down and remind … Continue reading Hot air…

If you want to change the world, change yourself. It sounds trite but I see it happen over and over again with my clients. Too often we try to force it in the opposite direction. We want to see change in others, so we try to force them or cajole them to change. Doesn't work. … Continue reading Change

I recently received a text with nothing in it but this. Day 6. The sender is referencing Day 6 in the book BBTL (Becoming BTL). This day was written in a stream of consciousness on a particularly hard day of mine. Wrote it as a reminder to myself. Embrace the hard. It's by design. The … Continue reading Through…

Leaders are believers and as a result leaders are believable. Why? Because they believe it. Whatever "it" is - their vision, the story their story-telling, their own beliefs. They have conviction, and we as humans find that believable. Normalize calling BS when you don't find someone believable. Normalize letting them know you don't find their … Continue reading Be believable