Us vs. Them…

Prejudice, according to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, is “an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge. An instance of such judgement or opinion. An irrational attitude of hostility directed against an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics.”

The problem with prejudice is we are wired to see others with crystal clarity and prone to blindness toward our own. Modern medicine has coined a phrase to reflect this truth. It’s called the “actor/observer bias.” When you or I observe another doing something petty, self serving or downright malicious we quickly rush to judge and pronounce that person as one bad apple. We don’t think twice. He or she cannot be trusted. However, when we “observe” ourselves doing something petty, self serving or downright malicious we rationalize our behavior and give ourselves the benefit of the doubt. We’re not really as bad as that behavior. We hadn’t gotten a good nights sleep, been late and rushed, and provoked past the point of no return. In fact, we were really just responding to the perpetrators bad behavior. We are prejudiced. We all are…

You see, friend, your prejudice isn’t simple and goes way beyond a black/white, right/left, rich/poor, south/north, east/west, conservative/liberal, or believer/pagan kinda configuration. Your prejudice is about us vs. them. And, the root of the problem is all we’ve really got is us. In reality there is no them.

All we’ve got is us.

Today, during another one on one practice, we worked on rooting out prejudice between us and them. Lead anything and you gotta root out prejudice as you build unity. Unity, you see, requires a leader realizing all we really got is us. What us vs. them are you rooting out, friend? Good…

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