Recently, during a difficult one on one practice, I stumbled onto something that may be useful. Listening to my client describe a relationship that was not working, suddenly this thought flew into my consciousness. He must decide to unite or untie. He’s been loosely coupled and the relationship is wobbling. He looked drained. Loose ends we’re getting frayed. He had chosen to wobble instead of the acute pain to align. Not good.
Unite or untie, friend. Problems, especially relational ones, do not get better with age. Problems, kinda like an open bottle of wine, don’t age well – they get worse. A lot worse.
Unite or untie. You choose. Your choices have consequences. Choosing to remain loosely coupled is a choice, it’s just rarely a good one. Unite or untie. Unite is centered by “it” – intentional transformation. Untie is centered with “ti” – terminate intentionally. Leaders must be in the middle of both. Leaders intentionally transform with the few and leaders intentionally terminate the toxic. Leaders cannot be all one with everyone, remember. Leaders, if they’re gonna build something special, something elite, something united, are gonna have to untie from others along the way. Sometimes they’re gonna have to untie from the very people that brought them to the dance. Hard. Fact.
Unite or untie. My client has some hard decidres in his near future. You, leader, do as well. It is time to unite and untie. You’re gonna need wisdom to know when to choose which. God, help us all. Good…