You, friend, have an abundance of fear. Every practice I see it. It’s high time you faced it. Your fear is limiting your ability to perform at or near your peak. You mostly fear loss. You fear the scourge of power if you feel you lack it and the loss of power if you think you’ve got it. According to Aung San Suu Kyi, this is another human universal – “It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power corrupts those who are subject to it.”
You would think humanity would have evolved beyond this by now. I mean come on my fellow American, you may be almost as powerful as JLo but neither she nor you come even close to the absolute power of Elizabeth I back in the sixteenth century. Queen Elizabeth decided life and death for her subjects. The most powerful woman in your world cannot legally kill you, friend. So, why do I constantly hear clients, BTL team practice participants, and endless others ranting about the most powerful person in their world forcing them to either “kiss the ring” or die?
The answer is always misplaced, irrational fear. Fact.
You, my fellow American, are free. I suggest you begin to act like it. Stop complaining about your leaders to colleagues, partners, bartenders, and barista’s. Talk to your leader. Get your stuff together and give her a logical, well thought out argument for what you want changed in your place of work. Give her your logic for why this is the best way forward for the business, team, or charity. Listen to what she has to say. Understand her perspective, because as your leader she’s got a wider one than you. She may listen. She may not. She may be persuaded. She may not. Regardless, you are free to decide whether of not to continue playing ball on her team. You do not need a better leader. You need to be a better leader. Your problem if you’re working for one of my BTL clients is not your leader. Your problem is you are filled with fear. Your problem is you fear the scourge of power and ain’t nobody threatening to cut off your head. Want a better team? Become a better leader. And, remember, most leaders are not the head of the system, at least not yet. Leaders are believers. Leaders talk to their leaders as if they’re peers, because they truly are. Nobody’s asking you to kiss the ring.
Live hard. Love harder (Thanks, Teeks)…