A second trap on the Builder's Journey is what Robert McGee calls 'APPROVAL ADDICTION.' It often 'lies' underneath the Performance Trap (Dream & Do Traps: Part 1 of 4). The false belief is that you aren’t significant unless & until you have earned ___________’s approval (e.g. of your boss, mentor, mom, dad, granddad, spouse. . .it may not even … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 2 of 4
Category: Interdependent Relationships
Am I Worthy of Your Loyalty?
I wonder sometimes how many people in my life might say they're loyal to me. Not just those who are "friendly" towards me, or "interested" in my well being, or even those who "respect" me, but how many could say that they're deeply committed to me? Loyalty. I used to be an "expert" in customer … Continue reading Am I Worthy of Your Loyalty?
Sir’s Legacy
On this father's day, I am thinking of "Sir"--my father's nickname given to him when he became a grandfather. It was a natural thing for the grandchildren to call him, since he was a military officer for most of his career and all of his eight children grew up addressing and answering him "Yes, sir" … Continue reading Sir’s Legacy
Descartes in Front of the Horse
Flag Day, 2010. I'm feeling patriotic. Do you ever wonder if our country's founding fathers and mothers could have dreamed up THIS country you and I live in today? At 300 million plus with an African president; totally wired to the rest of a rapidly developing world of mega cities (two of which are now … Continue reading Descartes in Front of the Horse
Two Types of People
Who hasn't heard someone try to make a point by beginning with the phrase, "There are two types of people in this world..." and then go on to make an observation about duality and their biased experience of being human. (By the way, ALL of our experience is biased. That's part of being human). Some … Continue reading Two Types of People
The Essence of Life.
I am lucky enough to have a friend Art who is 98 years old and has more energy than people half is age. Art is one of those people who can inspire you in so many ways. He still exercises each morning, stretching and lifting light weights, he is well-informed on the social issues of … Continue reading The Essence of Life.
Lift, and Drag
"Study. Learn. Apply." Those words of wisdom come from our own Zen Master, Mr. Chester E. Scott, the illuminated founder of our friendly neighborhood BUILT TO LEAD. Straight out of the playbooks of the Builder's Journey on the road to OPUS. Seems that he, and me, and the rest of the Band are into study--->learn--->apply … Continue reading Lift, and Drag
To MERGE takes PRACTICE
I had my 6th practice with the little software company a client bought last Fall. Finally, today was MAGIC. The first 5 practices you could sense F_ _ _-bombs going off all around. You could smell them. Feel them. Just not hear them. Not with the new "head of the system" present. The F_ … Continue reading To MERGE takes PRACTICE
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