Author: Chet

A client recently told me about some struggles at home. He's not getting what he's giving, or so he thinks. I listened and waited patiently for him to catch his breath. He's sideways, you know. She doesn't respect him. Never fills his cup. And, she seems unable to understand what it's like to be a … Continue reading Don’t know how you do it…

Happy Mother’s Day. Today, we celebrate Mom’s everywhere. You’ve been defending your young, well, like a mother, since time began. We’ve not always returned the favor. When I was a kid my Mom couldn’t get a credit card or take out a loan in her own name. I can remember not understanding why she signed … Continue reading Mothers…

Lots of well meaning coaches, leaders, and parents think they’re being helpful when they tell their athlete, teammate, or child to “just do your best.” Talk about an anxiety pill. What the hell is my best? Instead of that ambiguity, leader, be specific, concrete, and actionable. Tell your teammate to write 4 days a week … Continue reading Don’t just do your best…

Normal humans, my observation, are a mess. They look out the window and scream to all who will listen, "F*$% it, F#$% you, F@#$ off. I guess they feel better for a brief second. Soon enough truth rises. They are not fine. Truth. They are F#$%ed. High performers look in the mirror, not out the … Continue reading Habits…

BTL is about to celebrate our 25th year. We're heading to The Breakers in January to celebrate as a band. We'll invest a few days sharpening the saw and soaking in transformational ideas. Together we transform. Always together.  In January of 2028 we'll celebrate our first BTL summit with clients. This will become an annual … Continue reading The audience…

This is why we ride. Look at his face. Pure joy. May God bless you today and every day with more joy. May you be a conduit, not a Cul de sac. When you see joy on another’s face, remember to not only notice but acknowledge it. Kids don’t need to be reminded of their … Continue reading Joy…

Been an aggravating thirteen months. Been cut thirteen times going from 70 - 83. My legs look like somebody put their cigars out across these tiny twigs.  Thursday, Doccutfirstaskquestionslater took stitches out of 82 and then cut a little more out of my left twig. It was no big deal. Pain in the ASS. Truth.  … Continue reading 83…

Sir Ernest Shackleton's big dream was to cross the Antarctic continent on foot.  In 1914 he set out with a team of 28 men to do just that.  They failed.  What they did was survive. Amazingly all 28 made it out alive. The expeditions ship Endurance had threaded its way though the Weddell Sea before … Continue reading Endure…