Author: John Rue

...could also be titled Mental Health 101. If you were bothered Mental Health 101 appeared to be missing from our book because Day 136 is Mental Health 201 and Day 139 is Mental Health 301 -- you'll find it here. Day 36 (self-centered and other-controlling) reminded us that excellence is built by going against your … Continue reading Day 351: Vision correction…

...are what determine winners and losers at an auction. They also determine winners and losers in relationships -- except being the highest bidder isn't enough. Bids must be received. Before reality TV, the Gottmans discovered the power of bids in the love lab they constructed to study the stuff marital masters are made of and … Continue reading Day 350: Bids…

...is not a typo, nor is it in the book Becoming BUILT TO LEAD. Starting this Day 59, we get the gift of Andrew Teitelbaum -- our newest BTL builder -- who will be our coxen the next month, inspiring us to row together as ONE in a boat known as BTL. After all, March … Continue reading Day 58 1/2 (Bowl of cheerios)…

...is a nuance that came to Toto as he started working with sports teams. More on that after a quick lesson in greek. Two expressions our late builder Larry Allen taught were exotelic and autotelic. Exo means "external" (e.g. ants and beetles have exoskeletens). Auto means "within itself" (e.g. automobile, a horseless carriage). Telic means … Continue reading Day 58 (Win/lose and learn)…

...it heals, even though it may hurt and make you miserable before it does. First you must know the truth, which takes humility and courage. It takes humility to put yourself in the learner's seat. It takes courage to decide you can handle the truth, no matter what Jack Nicholson says. With humility and courage, … Continue reading Day 57 (Truth does not harm)…

...is yet another BTL Worldview. You can't give away what you don't have, and you can't have until you receive. You must receive the gift of being built first -- and blessed you are when you do. Only then can you become a BTL builder of others -- but all the more blessed when you … Continue reading Day 56 (Giving)…

...is one of the 12 Essentials of Personal Excellence. And it's the first essential of importance following BUILD YOUR CORE for a reason. When your CORE gets stronger, it's hard to not compare it with others. With more clarity, depth, comprehensiveness, significance and alignment, comes a predictable side effect -- pride. Humility is not about … Continue reading Day 55 (Humility)…

...is a BTL worldview for sales producers, rain-makers, and leaders of every make and model. Normally, "he who has the gold rules." Instead of taking a seat on the throne, surrounded by the usual court of gold-diggers, the BTL Producer-led way is the lowly station of the miner. The first to get the shaft, the … Continue reading Day 54 (Producer-led)…