Author: John Rue

...is one of the four healers -- and a must-have competence for ONEness within any relationship, family or team. With YouTube and a little curiosity, if you like fixing stuff around the house you can figure out how to repair nearly anything broken. If so, good for you. Apply this to broken people and broken-hearts? … Continue reading Day 53 (Repair 101)…

...is a BTL attitude which leads to ONEness. It's a quality every BTL leader would be wise to cultivate. Praus can be built. At the center of every strong CORE you will find it. If praus sounds like greek to you, you're right, and it's quite foreign to our American culture which esteems quite the … Continue reading Day 52 (Praus)…

...is the one 'L of a difference. And... It's BTL's Worldview -- we were created in love for love. It's BTL's Identity -- we are loved. It's BTL's Principle -- love others. It's BTL's Purpose -- a labor of love called OPUS. It's BTL's Passion -- we live to love, and love to live. It's … Continue reading Day 51 (Love)…

...are skills we want to master if we want ONEness with others. Remember, we can't break old habits, we can only build new ones. When I first read John & Julie Gottman's work, The Relationship Cure, it became clear the losers in my stable were the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," expert jockeys at (de)riding … Continue reading Day 50 (Four healers)…

...is one of the distinctives that separate humans from the animal world. And it's one of our universal top 5 fears -- that we'll come & go without it making any difference. Millions of books are sold about finding purpose. There are no magic formulas, but Becoming BUILT TO LEAD will give you a framework, … Continue reading Day 49 (Purpose)…

...is not forged in the crucible of life. It's revealed. Gee, Toto, only 48 days into this book and we keep feeling exposed -- why do we keep having to talk about this? The answer is simple, just not easy. This journey is iterative -- gaining clarity on who we're not helps with clarity on … Continue reading Day 48 (Identity)…

...is what history would term a child prodigy, because by age 4, Francis Galton knew Latin and long division. We would term him a student of BTL, because in 1869, Galton (cousin of Darwin) published his first study on the origins of high achievement. Outliers, he believed, were remarkable in three ways: “they demonstrate unusual … Continue reading Day 47 (Galton)…

...is like Morse Code, because it's the wire others decode as you telegraph it. Your true moral code is the one you live by when no one is watching. The one you telegraph will shape your reputation, the one you live by will shape your character. You, who are on the road, must have a … Continue reading Day 46 (Your moral code)…