Author: Chet

Recently I helped a client get through a major negotiation. Huge win. Likely the single biggest negotiation in his life. Here’s the key learning to this most important victory. He chose to lose. He let his adversary get what they wanted. My client caved to unreasonable requests. My client did not try to fix, did … Continue reading Negotiate to win…

I can remember meeting my future financial planner at a basketball game back in the early 90’s. I knew then I wanted to start BTL but I didn’t have enough yet. I wanted his help to build my financial strength so I could take the leap. He did his job. I did not jump. I … Continue reading Take the leap…

Today, in practice 219 with OSU grapplers, I kept it simple. What comes out of an orange under pressure? This was the opening question to our practice. The popular answer was juice. The truth? Whatever’s inside. What comes out of you under pressure? Same answer. If you want a better response, fill yourself up with … Continue reading Pressure…

I’m rereading Eugene Petersons book titled A long Obedience in the Same Direction. First read this beauty twenty years ago. Took one page of notes. Hit me, but not that hard. The book is ripping my heart out this go ‘round. I’m running out of room in the front of the book for my note … Continue reading In the same direction…

I freakin’ loved Bono’s book titled Surrender. Took me a week to polish it off and was well worth the effort. Here’s one nugget I’m still chewing on. Back in 1982 he wrote a lyric he was living - “I cannot change the world. I can change the world in me.” A Gandhi paraphrase, no? … Continue reading Surrender…

Nietzsche got this right, don’t you think, when he said, “The essential thing ‘in heaven and earth’ is that there should be long obedience in the same direction…” Translation. There are no silver bullets, only lead ones. Lots and lots of lead ones. Whatever you’re chasing, sign up for the apprenticeship, the pilgrimage, the long … Continue reading A long obedience…

This morning, during TSG practice 40, we did what we always do when a team reaches practice 40 - we listen to 40. We don't listen for 40 minutes, we don't speak for 4, we don't hear from 40, we tune into four artists who've been loyal to the music, the musicians; not so much. … Continue reading 40…

What’s the best way to increase your circle of influence? Stop trying to. Huh? Stop trying to control circumstances and other people. Does. Not. Work. What does? Focus on your CORE. Control you. Choose this suffering. Chosen suffering is a great tool for growth as long as you choose wisely. Choose the suffering that comes … Continue reading The mess…